Expressing your anger by raising your voice is a vicious circle. The more you do it, the worse you feel and the worse you feel, the angrier you get and voila! before you know it, you're yelling again. Sounds familiar, doesn't it? But don't worry, here's help to break the chain of noise. Here are four quick tips you can follow to get your child to listen to you without you having to lose your voice or your mind
1. Make one request at a time
Making too many demands of your child will only confuse him, and he will not be able to respond appropriately to what you wanted him to do in the first place.
2. Have reasonable expectations
This means, seriously considering what you are asking your child to do; is it really important they comply right away or can you allow some flexibility? For example, when it comes to certain values such as honesty, fairness and polite behaviour, you obviously need to draw the hard line, however, if your child does not feel like wearing a certain colour that day, you could consider giving in and letting him decide instead.
3. Start with a warning
Nobody likes being pulled up by surprise. Give your child ample warning before you decide to dole out consequences. So, if he has been rude once, tell him why it's not right to do so, but if the situation repeats itself despite several warnings, you could decide to take away one privilege like TV time to ensure the child understands you mean what you say. And also that his actions have consequences that he will have to bear.
4. Listen to your child
While it's true that you have your child's best interests at heart whenever you decide on something for them, it is also important to hear his thoughts and reasoning. For instance, you may think it is best for him to join some sports class to get physical exercise, but he may feel otherwise. Instead of dismissing his arguments outright and ordering him to follow your orders, explain what your objective is and give him the choice to decide how to get that hour of exercise in the way he will enjoy the most.