How does yelling affect my child?
Yelling in general inflicts a negative emotion on the person being yelled at, and when it comes to children, the impact can be far worse. According to a Wiley Study on child development published in September 2013, yelling at a child can be equated to spanking because of the kind of emotional impact it can have. Not only does yelling silently tell your child that it is okay to yell every time he feels frustrated, but also leads to your child reciprocating with rebellion or anger or, in extreme cases, even fear. What's more, losing control does not accomplish what you were yelling about in the first place and instead makes matters worse because the child either shuts down or starts having a meltdown
What kind of long-term effect can yelling have on a child?
In the long term too, yelling does not produce desired results. Your child may display unacceptable behaviour more frequently if you take yelling as a route to disciplining him because he gets used to the verbal backlash. Yelling is also said to effect the emotional development of a child, and may make him feel disconnected with you. It can also impact his confidence and self-esteem, because of the fear of being yelled at for trying something new. Children who are yelled at frequently also tend to lack concentration as they begin to tune out when a parent is yelling as a defence mechanism to feel safe.
What does my child learn when she is yelled at?
Children who are yelled at over the long term learn to use yelling as a tool to being heard too; after all their parents do it all the time. So every time his friends don't listen or things don't go his way, don't be surprised if you find him yelling to vent his frustration. Children also learn that it is acceptable to be aggressive to get their way. They might try displaying this kind of behaviour with siblings or within a peer group at school.
What are the alternate methods to discipline my child?
Be authoritative, not aggressive while disciplining your child. This means your child should know you love him but will be firm if required. Make rules that are easy for your child to understand when he has crossed his boundaries. When they break the rules, explain firmly that they have to take responsibility for their actions and face the consequences.